When the Stoics say that the obstacle is the way, that there's an opportunity in every obstacle, most of us take that to mean that everything that's bad can actually be good.
We think of the person who gets laid off and goes on to start their own company. We think of the prisoner who uses confinement as a school for the mind and spirit. We think of the rejected artist who grows an online audience and launches an independent label. The athlete whose injury fuels a historic comeback season. The general who uses bad weather as cover.
These are all inspiring and often real examples. And certainly the Stoics experienced their fair share of adversity which they impressively turned to advantage. But Marcus Aurelius' famous quote about the obstacle being the way was intended to be much more than career advice. What the Stoics really meant when they said there was an opportunity in every obstacle is that in every obstacle lies the opportunity to practice virtue. That is, it was a chance for them to rise to meet an occasion, to do the right thing, to be magnificent or magnanimous, even when they were heartbroken, even when they were being kicked around by life, even when they couldn't find the light while lost within the shadows.
Marcus Aurelius called them the "touchstones of goodness"—guiding principles for how to act, who to be, and how to respond in any situation. In fact, while I've been working (hey, Ryan here) these past several years on the Stoic Virtues Series—four books, each on one of the cardinal virtues—I have come to more fully understand what the Stoics were getting at: LIFE IS ALWAYS DEMANDING ONE OF THESE VIRTUES FROM US.
Always demanding us to be a good person despite the bad things that have happened. To do good in the world despite the bad that has befallen you. And in good times—in the face of the temptations, distractions, responsibility and obligations and obstacles that come with success and abundance—to be humble, to be disciplined, to be decent, to be generous, to hold true to your values.
I'm better for having written them—not just as a writer, but as a person. Of course, I can already see all the things I'd do differently if I were starting over, all I've learned since publishing the first book in 2021. But, that's kind of the point. To get better as you go. To learn from your time here. To put your past self to shame.
And though I finished the Stoic Virtues Series, I remain committed to the work.
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